The Demise of Guys
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I don’t know how I got on Clare De Graaf’s mailing list – but I’m glad I did or am. This 4 minute video says a lot about our changing culture – our children, you & me. Technology, smart phones, online games and social media are changing all of us – especially the millennial generation. I challenge all of us to 1.] be aware of what’s happening 2.] resist the change – organize our lives around the important – not the urgent.
They say, and I am saying, five years from now you will become the sum of who you associate with and the books you read. Who are you hanging around with and what books are you reading? I’m a slow reader and it takes work and discipline to plow through books. That’s why I’ve consumed hundreds of books on tape and CD in my car in the last 30 years. I’m considering subscribing towww.audible.com to accelerate my reading results. I challenge each of us to picture the three feet of books we’ve read that will define us five years from now. Commit now to reading a book a month – minimum! And for 2012 reflect on who we’re hanging around with. If I want to change or improve any area of my life – who might I associate with that could change or improve that area of my life? I choose intentional results in all areas of my life. Um, yes, this video has serious implications for our children and may require specific action … and also causes me to reflect on my own life, habits and direction.
Dr. Philip Zimbardo is a world-renown psychiatrist and he’s speaking at the 2011 TED Conference. This conference is held once a year and features short presentations by the foremost leaders and thinkers in the world in every possible field. Whether Dr. Zimbardo is a Christian or not, his observation are worthy of our attention. It’s obvious that experts of every stripe are now recognizing the damage both porn and video gaming are doing to men and ultimately to the woman they hope to marry.
The ideas presented below come from my friend, Don Pearson, a Pastor of Student Ministries at Blythefield Hills Baptist Church. Don has amazing insights into the world of teens and young adults and you’ll do well to listen. www.facebook.com/iparented
So what can you do?
Rather than simply whine about the problem, Don offers three specific steps you can take to address the issue of the demise of guys.
- Get a copy of iParent, written by Don Pearson. I was stunned when I read the short but powerful book that centers on how young people are being shaped by social media in ways I’d have never guessed!
- Plan on attending the iParent discussion on Monday, January 30, 2012. (Click here for details or put in the web address.)
- Read Don’s blog this week. Boys to Men, 10 great alternatives to shape real men. (Click here or put in the web address.)
Please check these resources out and then forward this email to everyone you know.
Clare De Graaf
Author of The 10 Second Rule